if you think Chris Brown is a piece of shit for beating his girlfriend
and you still idolize John Lennon, knowing he beat both his wives
you are a racist
Abusers are really good at finding people who have already been groomed to view abuse as ‘normal’. So please don’t wonder how someone could have been abused more than once and say shit like abuse survivors should know better.
It’s not unheard of for survivors to go from abusive relationship to abusive relationship. Abuse has been so normalized for so many people that there is this deep rooted suspicion that all relationships are abusive. That everyone is faking it just like you’re faking it. That no one actually has non-toxic relationships. And that’s a type of coping mechanism right there, isn’t it?
Then there’s also the fact that survivors have complicated feelings towards their abusers. Sometimes we love our abusers. Sometimes we are dependent on our abusers and feel indebted. Sometimes we know it is abuse but we don’t know if anyone will take our side and help us. People would rather turn away then help us. Sometimes people would rather help cover up the abuse because it’s less messy.
Sometimes these messy feelings keep us from realizing we’re being abused, even if we know the cycle of abuse, even if we’ve tried to help friends in messy relationships. It can’t be abuse, we’re in love. It can’t be abuse, he takes care of us. It can’t be abuse because I can’t see myself as someone being abused. Etc, etc, etc.
Hahaha, jog on!
This needs more attention.
I support these men, not just women in similar situations ♥
Domestic violence knows no gender boundaries.
It’s wonderful that this has so many notes.
Domestic violence is awful, no matter what genders are involved :C
Anyone who believes that there isn’t any domestic violence against men are very foolish. Foolish indeed.
I find it fascinating that the discourse about Michael Fassbender isn’t about how he abused an ex, who under considerable pressure, dropped the charges against him for beating the shit out of her.
It was that, since she dropped the charges against him, and there isn’t any ‘proof’, he must be an A-OK dood.
It also couldn’t possibly be that she’s a woman who has been unable to extricate herself from relationships with abusive men because battered women have an extremely difficult time breaking that cycle.
YEP, let’s instead, talk about how she’s some liar who was just after Fassyteeth.
Yes, we have irrefutable proof of Chris Brown smashing in Rihanna’s face. You don’t think the law aren’t only slightly more likely to press charges against and prosecute a young black man for his abusive crimes than they are a European white man? Because as we all know, fancy European white men can’t possibly beat women…
Ok then. Keep talking then.
This is a bad thing? Ohh not the fun kind, I see…
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